What if being a devoted mother meant diving joyfully into my interests and pouring energy into my own growth and healing?

Parents want the best possible lives for their children. We want them to face less friction than we did, to not have to fight the same battles we faced.

We want our kids to be kind. We want our kids to be resilient. We want our kids to know their worth and their values, and make decisions based on that knowing. We want our kids to live balanced lives, to have enriching relationships, to enjoy prosperity, to feel peace within themselves.

How do I give my children the best odds at finding those things?

I seek and build them for myself right now. Everything I want for them I can create for myself. I will show them how I did it and what it looks like. I will speak honestly about the process and encourage them to do the same.

This work on myself is the exact same work I’d need to do if I were to only devote myself to the best interests of my children. The more work I do to live the kind of life I want for them, the clearer the path can be for them.

It is not a matter of choosing myself or choosing them. I choose both, and if I don’t, I am abandoning both.