I am currently doing internal work to prepare myself for intimate partnership. This work is multifaceted and intended to ensure that I will show up with integrity and joy when I connect with the souls I am meant to know. It is also intended to ensure that I will have the foundation to hold the abundant love when it arrives.

One facet of this work has included time in reflection to determine what I am orienting myself towards. Getting clear on what I am looking for will enable me to realize when I have found it.

I journaled this list of attributes that I desire in a partner and when I shared it with a soul sister, it was clear that it is also a list of attributes for us to strive towards as individuals and as partners. May it offer you a starting point for reflection on how you want to show up in your relationships and a template for how you might also know when it’s a “no” to a connection in your life.

I seek a partner who has:

• The ability to connect to both masculine and feminine energy within themselves, and holds a belief in the value of both/the balance between them
• Awareness of the power of their words and chooses to speak compassionately about other people, including ones they disagree with
• Curiosity about the world
• Desire to be ever-more connected to the land and to Spirit
• A spiritual practice of their own and respect/honoring of mine
• Willingness to feel and process the full range of emotions- joy, fear, anger, jealousy, awe, bliss, etc.- all in their complete intensity
• Discipline and rigor in doing their own shadow work
• Awareness of their sacred center and practice orienting their perspective and decisions from that Divine self/purpose
• Openness to non-monogamy and all the communication, presence, awareness, processing, etc. that it will require to be nourishing and sustainable
• Developed and practiced accountability for their own decisions, perspective, and energy
• Awareness of what is theirs to control and what is not
• Trust in their own resilience- experience facing ordeal and moving through rebirth
• Playfulness, openness, passion, presence, expansiveness, respect, surrender, and kink in sex
• Well developed sexual maturity, and the skills and practice to gracefully and kindly handle declined advances
• A reverence and honoring of my role as a mother, and a desire to be a stable and loving presence to my children
• Openness to co-creation and the humility and trust to allow me to create for/with them
• Expression of the artist within them, in whatever medium lights their spirit on fire
• Pleasure in witnessing the full range of my wild feminine, and joy in holding a container and cheering me on
• Comfort and pleasure in receiving care and nurturing, without the expectation that I will mother them.

Blessed be!